In my last post, I talked about the importance of self-love, and how much it helped me make some important life changes. Every day is a wonderful gift, and to spend any part of your day putting yourself down is just not productive or necessary. Especially when you are so AMAZING – yes, you, whoever you are, I guarantee you are amazing.
In my last post, I also told you that getting to a place where I could actually say that I love and accept myself has been a long journey. And it has; it has taken a lot of work and self-reflection, but it has been so worth it. Not all that long ago whenever I thought about making changes in my life, it was often a response to something that I didn’t like about myself – an effort to change what I didn’t like, or to ‘compensate’ for it (as though I somehow needed to apologize for being ME). I had thoughts about not being smart enough, or tall enough, or thin enough, or tanned enough, etc. etc. It all came down to my misinformed belief that in one way or another, I was not good enough. But I was wrong, and after a lot of work and reflection I started to realize just how wrong I was. Now that I can appreciate my own uniqueness and love myself for who I am I want to help you get there too, so I put together a small list of strategies to help you on your own journey to self-love.
- Learn to distinguish between negative and positive self-talk, and then build up the positive and dismiss the negative. I like to call the negative voice, the ‘nattering parrot on your shoulder’, and whenever I feel the negativity creeping in, I picture that parrot on my shoulder and I acknowledge that it is there and then ask it to leave and take it’s negativity with it. It sounds very silly, I know, but give it a try – it just might help! Once you learn to dismiss the negative self-talk you can focus on that positive self-talk – that is the voice you need to listen to! For more help on this strategy I recommend you visit http://adashofmeg.com/2015/03/11/the-first-step-to-bringing-freedom-into-your-life/ and watch Meg’s vlog – she totally gets it and perfectly describes this strategy.
- Make time for yourself to do something you enjoy. It doesn’t have to be long, and it can be simple. For me, it’s a cup of tea. I make time every day to sit and enjoy a cup of tea. Even though this is so simple, it helps in two ways: 1) It acknowledges that I am worthy of doing something that I love every single day, and 2) It gives me time to sit, relax, and refresh.
- Start doing positive affirmations every day. There are two kinds of affirmations that I recommend:
- Every morning, look at yourself in the mirror and repeat your positive affirmation three times and then smile. Your affirmation can be anything you like, but I will give some ideas (below) to get you started in case you have trouble thinking of one at first.
- The second type of affirmation doesn’t require a mirror. At various points in your day simply repeat your affirmation to yourself. You can do this at any point in your day as a reminder, but I find this technique is also really good if there’s an event or anything coming up that makes you a little bit nervous. For example, if I’m nervous for a meeting or presentation I will give myself a quiet moment to say my affirmations to myself and build myself up.
In case you aren’t sure where to start with your affirmations, here are some examples of affirmations you can use (but feel free to get creative and make up your own!):
“My mind is brilliant, my body is healthy, my soul is tranquil.”
“I love and accept myself exactly as I am.”
“All is well in my world.”
“I am enough.”
“I am amazing, and bring many gifts to this world.”
I will openly admit that when I first started doing positive affirmations I felt very awkward! The idea of saying something so self-appreciating felt unnatural and arrogant, but, with time, I have come to love my positive affirmations and I never go a day without them. I truly believe that this has made a huge difference in my journey to self-love. You might not believe the affirmations at first when you say them, and you may even feel a little bit uncomfortable like I did, but I have found that the more I say them, the more I whole-heartedly believe in the affirmation, so try to get past feeling silly or awkward!
I hope that these strategies will help you! They’re pretty simple, but they’ve made a world of difference for me.
Is self-love an area you struggle with? What other strategies have you tried? Share them in the comments below!
Until the next time,